I love 'em! New experiences, that is. Mostly. Sometimes they're not so lovable in the moment, it takes a little while until the love becomes available.
I have found my sweet spot on the planet, even the air feels right. I arrived five days ago for my third visit to Bend,Oregon, and it still grabs me- I want to be here. Along with that new compelling feeling are new experiences. It's fun to be outside here. There are surprises around each bend in the road, path and skyline.
Yesterday I set out for an adventure with my hostess and friend, Wendy, lunch tucked into a backpack, puppy in tow. After a magnificent drive that included a stop in Sisters, OR, for coffee (yay) we arrived at our trailhead and set out on a 8(ish) mile hike through forest and over water on an obvious yet challenging trail. The destination, Blue Pool, was a magical sight. The blue that you see in the photographs is true! Snow in some spots and hot sun in others, the hike provided more variety than I could have anticipated. And then I fell in the muddy water.
Allow me to set it up for you.
There's a spot on the trail that is interrupted by water without a bridge. On the way back I attempted to cross the water by balancing on a skinny branch, trusting that the mossy spots sticking out of the water were rocks big enough to support me as stepping stones. Wrong. I went in, soaking my clothes and dunking the cute little cross-body bag that held my phone, money, gum, etc. I was shocked! I popped back up, looked at Wendy, and we both burst into laughter. On the other side I let water run out of my shoes, out of my little bag, and rescued my phone, which was fine. The gum, not so much. I fell back into formation behind my ridiculously graceful, lithe hostess, and squished my way back to the car. I'll pause here so you can really enjoy the mental picture.
It wasn't until I was showered and dressed that the cascade of gifts hit me. The hike had pushed my edge, it set a new bar. The discomfort of the dunk paled in comparison to my bold attempt! I love that I tried and risked the dunk. I love that Wendy didn't underestimate me and choose caution. I even love the rest day I'm enjoying today, preparing for the coming adventures. And today I'm not feeling any failure, I'm feeling the victory. GO ME!!!
When I say "Happiness" I mean that feeling you get when you know you're in complete charge of your State of Being. I would have named my business The I'm In Charge of My State of Being Company, but it felt so awkward. Perhaps I should have done that, because I'm getting some blowback, and so are some people in the happiness community. Happiness, it turns out, means different things to different people.
We live in a vibrational universe. That means that our manifested reality is an exact reflection of the vibration we're broadcasting. This is very exciting news if you understand what it means and have a few tools to go with it. My job is to provide tools and to celebrate with others the enjoyment and power that comes with utilizing them! It's actually exhilarating for me.
Here's where it can get confusing- some folks interpret happiness as getting what they want- from others! Can you believe it? One of my favorite peeps, I'll call her SoozieQ, was enjoying practicing alignment by being open and loving and authentic. A relative took a verbal swing at her, and said she should get a refund from her happiness coach, because SoozieQ wasn't making this particular relative happy. Luckily, SoozieQ is an alignment pro and happiness activist, so she called in reinforcements and was back in top form, pronto. So here's the rub: we don't all tune into the same frequency. Happiness is different for a conscious creator than it is for a robot or an accomplished victim. If you're waiting for someone else to satisfy your desire for happiness, you're missing the boat! You could be happy right this minute! You have everything you need inside of you already. Choose to feel happy before you speak or act or even get out of bed. If you run into someone who wants you to be responsible for their happiness, share with them, gently, that they can do it for themselves and not to wait another moment!
YOU know what I see a lot of? Powerful creators masquerading as normal individuals. They are working really hard to blend in, wearing camouflage and exhausting themselves in their effort to want what normal people want and do what normal people do. Give it up, Creators!
There is a cultural takeout menu for a normal looking life: what a relationship looks like, what a career looks like, a family, a holiday, a home, etc. None of these will ever satisfy you because you’re yearning for MORE. The MORE and the meaning will never come from ouside of you or off of that takeout menu because YOU AREN’T NORMAL!
The takeout menu is all set up for robots. They can choose all the bells and whistles they want, making the choices appear unique, yet it’s all the same. It’s all designed for a nice personal life, created from the outside. For conscious creators, a nice personal life is sleep inducing. Boring. Common and repetitive, and we’re here for the adventure! For creating what hasn’t been created before! A relationship, for us, is about expansion, not who’s putting the trash out. A home for us is command central, not belongings to manage.
If you have decided to take over the controls of your equipment (brain and body) and design your reality, don’t waste your time with the takeout menu. Ask yourself what a Divine Creator wants for lunch, not what the rest of the neighborhood is having. What would a Divine Creator want a relationship for? What is a “job” for a Divine Creator? When you ask the questions that come from that biggest version of you, you’ll find the answers are right in front of you! The creator YOU has been busy creating all the while you’ve been hopelessly living incognito, exhausting yourself trying to be average. Open your eyes to what YOU have really been up to, and you’ll see a complete alternate reality, filled with amazing accomplishments and astounding plans!
Relax and accept that your days of normal are behind you. Line up with the Divine Creator that you truly are, and let it rip!
I live with a wine guy. This man can talk about the nuances of wine and details of grape growing long past my ability to focus. And I’ve been known to glaze over at a point…
(Don’t worry, we both know this and he glazes over when I go on about my stuff too)
However, he was just explaining to me that grapevines flourish in particular environments. The health and yield are affected by latitude, rainfall, sunlight, temperature, soil, growth cycle and two or three thousand other components. Collectively, these determine the quality and value of the wine, and the longevity of the vines. I began to make a connection between grapevines and pretty much everything else! I’ve been applying the grapevine principle to aspects of people, relationships, businesses and all the dark corners of reality creation. What I learned is that it is VERY helpful to understand just how much rainfall it takes to nourish your particular grapevine. You might just be trying to grow your grapes in an environment that isn’t optimal!
Try this out on an aspect of your reality, and let me know what you learn!
We’re looking for optimal nourishment here, exactly what it takes to achieve maximum yield. AND I’m speaking metaphorically, so allow the metaphors to lead you in the direction of your own alignment:
1. Name your grape- relationship, career, holiday plans, etc.
What is it you want to create?
2. Latitude- the distance between the Earth’s poles and the equator. What is the perfect balance for your grape to thrive?
3. Growth cycle- consider the phases of growth from the idea/desire to the experience. Each piece needs consideration: Planting, sprouting, growth/maturing, harvest, rest…..What’s the best support for each phase?
4. Soil- Nourishment? Sustenance? Solid foundation? What’s the ideal growing medium for your grapevine to take hold?
5. Rainfall- Cooling? Cleaning? Rejuvenating? What rings a bell for you?
Experiment with the metaphors to find the most promising and comforting parameters for your grapes to thrive. Have fun! And please share your wine!
Do you remember pre-internet days? If not, maybe you’ve heard stories about file cabinets filled with cancelled checks, statements from utility companies, instruction manuals for appliances, etc. File folders laden with records of the past. We’re not burdened with all that paper anymore; it’s all kept virtually. I can get instructions for my equipment by visiting a website, I can retrieve a photo of a check I’ve written by visiting my bank’s website, and my photos are stored in THE CLOUD. I’m liberated from all that weighty paper!
So I wondered, have I updated the way my body stores archives? Am I lugging around the cellular equivalent of decades of cancelled checks? What if we can store old information in The Cloud, liberating our bodies of anything that interrupts our ability to be in the present moment!?
I began to experiment with the question by releasing stories from the past, knowing that I can retrieve them from The Cloud. First on the list was chronicles of events that don’t support my most empowered ME as well as any that don’t feel good. I continued on with any old information that doesn’t support my genius creatorship in the present moment, including self-judgment and criticism. (I may have gone one step too far, as I couldn’t remember visiting a restaurant, and had to go get the memory from The Cloud to be in a conversation! lol)
Now onto physical implications! I notice that the memory of an old injury is stored in my cells, and I’m reminded during an workout. I stopped to ask; is this kink happening right now, or is this something old replaying itself? As I contemplated the question without judgment, it simply evaporated. The whole story and the resulting kink is now stored in The Cloud, just in case I ever want to consider it again.
I feel my body lightening as I relegate more and more old information to The Cloud, relieving my body of decades of useless documentation. I am able to greet every minute with fresh eyes, and my ability to intercept new information is increasing constantly. I’m now sure that we can update our bodies and brains to keep up with technology.
I believe I’m onto something!
During the last decade we have really accelerated the pace of becoming aware and conscious, expanding by leaps and bounds in just the last year! It’s common to hear phrases such as “being present” and “higher self”. Even those who aren’t yet actively participating are familiar, on some level, with the shift in focus.
Relationships, too, are ready for awareness. By shifting orientation to the purpose and meaning of our relationships, we can enjoy the rapid development and conscious purpose that our “self” has experienced. To start, let’s take a look at intimate relationships, though this view works on all relationships from the postman to your true love to your mother.
When I work with young couples in my coaching practice, I ask them “Why are you together?” What do you think is the most common response? “Because we love each other!” “Great!”, I say, “You’re going to need that! What are you going to do with that love energy? What is it for?” I get some funny looks. A purpose? To relationship? What if there’s more to it than being harnessed to someone to fulfill a cultural prescription for how adulthood or family or life is supposed to look? What if there’s a purpose to our relationships? What if relationships are how we grow ourselves, our societies and expand the cosmos?
Consider this: we are aligned with the Greater Being of our partners, and will do whatever it takes for our partners to have the information and expansion they desire. We will poke and prod and irritate in order to honor that commitment to their expansion, clarity and authenticity. They do the same for us. Before the BIG FLIP, we are always looking for ways to eliminate conflict, communicate more effectively, resolve issues, and get our partners to stop the very thing they have dedicated themselves to doing! After the BIG FLIP, we look for the information or experience that we are yearning for, and thank our partner for the devotion it took for us to get whatever it was. It can sound like “WOW, dude, you really had to work hard for me to get that one! Thanks, I love you!” The BIG FLIP virtually eliminates conflict, because we understand that we are working together on something much bigger than “being in love”. We are creating scenarios just to get to those brilliant insights! We are partnering for expansion, awareness and the complete integration of our BEING!
The BIG FLIP recognizes relationships as People Growing Machines, and enables us to utilize their inherent brilliance. My partner does something that triggers me? Yes! There’s new information for me- expansion and awareness knocking on the door! It can start with “Whoa, I don’t like how this feels.” But the next step is the biggie- instead of wanting my partner to stop and fix whatever just created that feeling in me, I get to look at my response/ feeling and discover the new information that caused it to bubble up! Cool, huh? And yes, sometimes the information that bubbles up is clarity about what you want in a partner and the realization that this particular partner isn’t it. More likely, though, the new information and awareness gives the relationship more juice, and both partners benefit from the expansion.
Want to give this a try? Here are a few steps to set up your relationship for a graceful FLIP:
Voila! Nothing to settle, no blaming. Jump right to the celebration and the new agreement together based on this new information. SOOO much more fun than going round and round discussing who did what to whom!
We’re in this together, folks. The design is genius, we just missed the instructions!
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